Sunday, June 26, 2011

Body Language for Online Profile Pictures

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When it comes to what people find sexually attractive, men are from mars and women really are from venus.

I bet you've heard that confidence is the number one thing people find attractive- recent research suggests you've heard wrong.

In a study just released by Jessica Tracy and Alec Beall, they explore what displayed emotions attract the most members of the opposite sex.

They found that men are attracted to women that smile and appear happy.

You probably already know this by experience, as a smile from a woman usually acts as an invitation to conversation, as well as showing their nurturing, non-dominant selves.

Women who displayed pride or shame, however, were rated lower in attractiveness.

Standing up straight, chest puffed out, chin up-all sure signs of confidence-men were not impressed with.

And now, the obvious: "The bad guys..."

Women love confident men.

Women were found to be significantly more sexually attracted to pride and shame than they were of happiness.

It has been speculated that smiling in men is a sign of femininity.

So does this mean..

If you are a guy should you stop smiling at women and immediately begin exerting signs of pride and dominance everywhere you go?

A woman? Should you simmer down the confidence and start smiling more?

Not necessarily. When couples are engaged in a conversation or activity together, we see them actively smiling at each other, equally having a good time. This study is pointing out the sexual attraction we have to strangers initially, with only potential generalization to our romantic partners.

Men: You don't want to come off as shallow or pompous, but maintaining a mysterious persona at first may work to your advantage when attracting strangers. Then knock them dead with your killer sense of humor-women are three times as likely to give out their numbers to funny men.

Women: While smiling at random has been shown to elevate moods, you don't want to give off the impression of being fake, deceitful, or unreal. It is fairly easy to detect the difference between a genuine smile and a forced smile. A genuine smile is called the Duchenne smile-when the muscles in your face pull the cheeks up and wrinkle around the eyes. Smiling is not only an expression of happiness, it could also be a sign of embarrasment or deceit. Smile when you mean it- everyone appreciates a real smile. In social interactions, a smile is rewarding.

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4 comments:

Michael D. Walker said...

Fascinating post on body language and what is attractive to a man versus what is attractive to a woman. While I do believe that success is a choice, your research shows there are other factors at play in those choices.

Michael
Success Is A Choice

Cherie Miranda said...

Good advice not just for profile pictures but for daily life. Fake smiles are the worst...but real smiles are unbeatable.

Cherie Miranda
Knowing the reasons people buy is essential for everyone in business. I imagine those reasons are the same whether someone is buying a guided meditation or a new car.

Cherie Miranda
The Power of Group Meditation

sunny said...

Kevin, good post on the importance of being authentic in your smiling.
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sunny said...

Kevin, this post shows the importance of being authentic when we are smiling.
Sonya Lenzo
http:www.sunnyincostarica.com/angelinajolieandbradpittaremovingtocotarica/